Jealousy

The dictionary defines jealousy as the state of being jealous. Feeling jealous has a few derogatory meanings: Being jealous means wanting to keep what one has possessively, it also means feeling unhappy at someone else success. Another word often used for the last meaning is envious”. Of the two words “envious” means wishing one has something that another has, and “jealous” means something even more unpleasant – actually hating the person who has received good fortune. There are a couple of good uses of the word, but these are not so commonly used nowadays. We can say that a person guards his home or his honor jealously. But usually, the word “jealousy” brings to mind negative and undesirable qualities.

The feeling of jealousy is one of the most dangerous that a person can feel towards another. A person who is jealous almost immediately loses his ability to reason. If a man feels jealous about another’s achievements, chances are he spends a lot of time feeling angry at that person, for something that he has probably gained through his own hard work. Sometimes this anger can lead to violence. Violence usually takes place when all reasoning ends. We read of violent crimes committed by men in love, when the woman he loves someone else. Immediately the loser thinks he is a victim and acts as if he has been cheated. He cannot see that all that has happened is that the woman has chosen according to her own inclinations. If the man had truly loved her then jealousy has no place in his mind. He should think of her happiness. Though the illustration mentions only male jealousy, female jealousy has been known to be just as vicious.

On another meaning of jealousy, some people are apt to be jealous if someone they love, or are just fond of, pays attention to someone else. This is common even in ordinary friendships. A poorly adjusted individual may want a certain friend to keep only his company. So if he sees the person whom he believes he “owns” talking to someone else, he flies into a rage. This kind of behavior shows extreme immaturity. The truth is that no one owns anyone. Even in love relationships, there should be no jealousy involved, and no attempt to possess a person as if he or she were an object. Love relationships should be founded on mutual trust and jealousy has no place in it.

Jealousy at another good fortune is the most harmful of all. Elders, and scriptures, have been telling us that if one is jealous of another, and wishes him evil, the effect of the jealousy will be felt by oneself. This may sound like a tall tale, but now there is scientific evidence of its truth. Research shows that when we wish evil on someone – like wishing him to contract an incurable disease, our thoughts have no power to harm the person we feel jealous about. What happens is that our mind interprets the thought as meaning that is “OK” for such a situation to happen – in this case to suffer from an incurable disease. Since it has no power to cause someone else to be sick, it attracts the illness to the person who has the thought. 

Whatever from jealousy takes it is certainly a very dangers feeling – for the person who feels it as well as for the others. Whatever the impact of jealousy, it’s a kind of feelings or emotions without which make our life spice less.